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Stop Trying To Be Superwoman And Say ‘No’ More

Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.

That is a quote that I have on a cute wooden wall plaque. It is a great message; one that I have always thought to be really inspiring, and yet it is a quote that I have never lived by.

We’re all guilty of doing too much nowadays. It’s like everybody is in competition with each other as to ‘who is the busiest’. There’s a reason why we love the peaceful moments we manage to snatch here and there. That is because they are so few and far between in our busy schedules, and we need them. We need moments of stillness to keep ourselves sane.

I have found myself getting increasingly burnt out over the past month or so. I went from working to making myself unemployed, and then kicked into overdrive to accumulate enough work to keep me going. But now that I’ve added a full-time job (that is 6 days a week) on top of a part-time job, plus show commitments, plus blog commitments, plus helping out past employers by covering work, it is just not sustainable. I physically don’t have enough hours in the week to get done all the things I have committed to. Let alone have any time to see my partner, see my friends, have a peaceful day/night by myself, or heaven forbid get enough sleep to function on.

The problem is that I struggle to say ‘no’. And I know that a lot of people struggle to do that too.

We have a constant fear of missing out. So we say ‘yes’ to everything, thinking that it will be fine. But once several months of 7-day weeks have accumulated, you start to realise that it’s just not sustainable.

‘Burn out’ is real and I feel like it’s so common at the moment. And I know that I am at ‘burn out’.

So what do you do to recover from your burn out? Well, you have to start saying ‘no’. You have to admit that you are not a super-human-machine and that you need to have some time for yourself.

Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.

Can you survive without that extra bit of income? Do you need to attend that event? Do you have time to help out that friend?

If you have to question it then the answer is probably ‘no’.

You will always spend whatever money you make; you will always find something to do with it, whether it is savings, paying rent or frivolous spending. So do you need to be working all hours of the day, every day of the week in order to have money for the things you want and need to do? Probably not. You can probably get by for the most part on your standard full-time wage.

So I urge you, if you feel like you are about to burn out, start saying ‘no’. Stop feeling like you owe people. It is not healthy and it will not make you happy. And then you will be no use to other people.

Be strong and admit that you can’t do it all. You don’t have to do it all! Stop chasing success and this ‘Girl Boss’ mentality where you have to be working yourself to the bone. Enjoy a day off. Lie in, go shopping, eat out with a friend, go for a long walk, go to a spa, go to the cinema – do anything that is easy and makes your soul happy.

None of us are superwoman, so stop trying to be.

Superwoman wishes she was normal, after all. She wishes she was a normal human who doesn’t have the weight of the world on her shoulders. Be the opposite of superwoman and you’ll be happier for it.

burn out happens when you avoid being human for too long quote