I’m sure I’m not alone in feeling like my life is pretty mediocre?
I feel like I’m not amounting to anything; like I’m doing nothing exciting with my life. Last night I just sat in the flat feeling like ‘what is the point in even trying?’
I don’t know where everyone is finding the time and the energy to get everything done in a working week. I constantly feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day to get simple tasks done such as cooking my tea and watching a TV show before bed. Never mind actually having the time to go to an exercise class or write a blog, or spend some time with my boyfriend on top of that.
You highflyers – where are you finding the time in the day??
Oh wait, you Instagram bloggers probably are students and don’t have full-time jobs… well that answers that question!
Blogging Has Become So Mainstream It’s Not Fun Anymore
I started blogging about five years ago, just for fun. I have always enjoyed writing so I started it just as a hobby. I didn’t know if anyone was reading it (I still don’t), but it was for me mainly, anyhow.
In the past two years, blogging has become this massive platform. A legion of girls are now blogging with the hopes of making money from it – and AWESOME for them! But when you don’t have the time to write a couple of posts every week or utilize social media to get plenty of people reading your blog, it becomes very disheartening.
When all you wanted to do was write a load of ramblings and now you need to have a kick-ass Instagram to boot, it kinda sucks the fun out of it.
Can I just write whatever rubbish I want without having people compare me to others?
Social Media Is Killing My Self-Esteem
The other day I went into Urban Outfitters (a place where I never buy anything, I just like thinking about how cool I could maybe dress if I was hip and 15 again, with endless amounts of money). I saw this leopard print top that caught my eye and went to grab it. As soon as I realised that it was a crop top I put it straight back and my brain went ‘you don’t deserve to wear that’. And I stopped.
Why did my brain say those ugly words? ‘You don’t deserve to wear that.’
I am a size 6/8 UK dress size but because I don’t have abs, my brain automatically decided I couldn’t wear it.
I would like to state for the record that I do not believe that anybody of any size should not wear whatever the hell they want. Size 6 or size 16, if you want to wear a crop top then wear that crop top! So why did my brain automatically think I wasn’t worthy?
Oh wait, because the ‘perfect’ body is paraded in front of me every single day, everywhere I go. I see perfectly edited bodies in bikinis on my phone when I mindlessly scroll through Instagram, on giant posters as I walk down the street, and on any website I visit, I get advertisements for clothing stores with ‘perfect’ models showing off clothes.
So this ‘ideal’ is drilled into my subconscious nearly every second of every day.
Not to mention, everybody complains about how they should go to the gym more (or brags about how much they go to the gym). So I know that I’m not the only one feeling the pressure.
My friends and I often complain about our hang-ups on our bodies. We are 25 and we will probably never have such good bodies again, and we are all complaining about our lumps and bumps. We try on a dress and get upset about the curves of our bodies in the dress. Like, what?! That’s called your ‘skin’.
Is my body working? Just about…
Am I eating healthily? Most of the time…
Do I keep active? Fairly…
Then my body is fine.
Be grateful for what your body does for you every day rather than being disappointed in it because it doesn’t look like a highly edited picture on Instagram. Those bodies aren’t real anyway!
Facebook Is Making Me Feel Left Behind
Now I know I’m not alone in this one…
Every time I log onto Facebook there is a new engagement, a new pregnancy announcement, a new dream job achieved, a new friend off traveling the world etc. etc.
Is there anyone else out there who isn’t married, having babies or living the dream? Or is it just me?
While I love seeing good things happening for people, the constant daily updates feel like a daily reminder that I’m in the same place I was when I was 21 years old. Sure, I haven’t lived under a rock by any means, but I haven’t had any exciting updates to tell my friends about my life either in a long time.
When I see my friends they’re like, “How’re things? Anything new going on with you?” And I’m like “NOPE.”
My name is Elisha. I’m 25, back living around where I grew up, not working as a performer, and I still go clubbing at Viper Rooms from time to time. I’m pretty much who I was at 18, the only difference is I’ve developed a few wrinkles and a minor alcohol-addiction since then.
Facebook feels like a never-ending competition to prove to the people you went to school with that you are living a happy, successful life. And I feel left behind.
So It’s Time To Troubleshoot…
Feeling unsuccessful in blogging – Just write whatever you want, whenever you want. Use social media when you have time and don’t stress over the number of ‘followers’ you have. There are way more important things in life.
Feeling self-conscious about the way you look – The sexiest thing is confidence. Nobody cares what you look like apart from you. Nobody sees the ‘imperfections’ you see; most people are too busy focusing on their own issues to even notice yours.
Feeling left behind in life – There is no to-do list in life. There is no time frame you have to do things in. As long as you are happy right now then that is all that matters. And if you feel like you have to prove something, ask yourself why and then target that problem. Unfriend people you feel like you have to ‘prove something’ to.
Nobody shows their unglamorous every-day life on social media; only the exciting things. So don’t compare your low days to other people’s high days. Nobody’s life is perfect.