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The Reason Why I’m Going Travelling On My Own

Whenever I tell people that I’m going travelling on my own, people are equally excited and nervous.

The main thing that other girls I tell say is “I wish I could do that but I’m too scared.”

Let me tell you a secret… I’m scared too!

I have days where I am jumping off the walls with excitement and bravery and then some days where my stomach starts to turn over and I get worried about being on my own for a long period of time. That’s why it took me so long to get down to booking the trip in the first place.

Eventually, I had to jump on it on a day when I was feeling brave. I booked my outbound flight so I was definitely going somewhere. And once that initial flight was booked, the rest all fell into place.

So why am I going travelling on my own?

Well, first and foremost, I don’t want to wait around for other people to be available and have the same savings as me because I could be waiting forever!

Travelling with someone else means you have to agree on everything, from the time of your flights to the place you’re staying, to the touristy spots you want to visit to the restaurants you eat at etc. etc.

You hear never-ending stories of people who fall out with their friends whilst travelling together for long periods of time because it can be intense doing EVERYTHING together for a long period of time. So I’d rather avoid the drama and go on my own.

A girl I spoke to, who recently went travelling with a friend for a month, got ditched by ‘said friend’ after two weeks of the trip because she ‘missed her boyfriend’. No thank you!

I also think a part of me is being a bit stubborn. People who are worried are obviously concerned that as a girl on my own I could be attacked. And it infuriates me that we have to live in a world where we are afraid to carry out the amazing dreams we have because we live in fear of that.

So going travelling on my own is a bit of defiance against the world. I don’t want to live in fear and not do something because somebody might be a psychopath. Most people are fine, sadly it’s just some people who are very unlucky. I’ll do my best to stay as safe as possible and I’m sure I will be fine!

A big reason why I booked this trip now is because at the start of the year I was going to be doing another Disney Cruise Line contract. I was going to be doing an amazing itinerary around Europe and Canada and sailing out of New York and Bermuda – it would have been insane!

So when that fell through, the main thing that I was sad that I would be missing was the incredible itinerary. SO I got up the cruise itinerary and selected the places that I was most sad I was missing… and it actually turned out there weren’t that many. I’d done most of them before and some of them that I hadn’t done didn’t overly excite me anyway.

So I wrote a list of the places I’d like to go in the world and I decided I needed some sun this year, so I concocted a Southern European itinerary.

I’m throwing inter railing into the mix (something I’ve always wanted to do) and my itinerary of Portugal, Spain, France and Italy seemed like the perfect option.

I decided that I wasn’t going to wallow in self pity and be sad that I wasn’t somewhere else. I decided to make the opportunity to travel happen for myself.

I think the main thing I worry about is that I will be lonely. But this will be time to meet and talk to strangers from other walks of life. It will be time for me to read all the books that I’ve been wanting to get down to for so long, and perhaps write down some ideas for stories of my own. And most importantly, there will be so much to explore and do that I probably won’t have time to feel lonely!

Besides, with the beauty of the internet you’re never far away from a phone call to a friend when you’re feeling homesick.

I have only three more days left until I jet off and I feel totally unprepared for what will be the biggest trip I’ve taken in my life so far.

Someone recently said to me “Go, and don’t try and ‘find yourself’. Go and just ‘be’ yourself.”

And I think that is a great tip for travelling. I’ve been looking forward to the escape and hoping that my life will somehow fall into place while I’m away; like I’ll suddenly have an epiphany of what the rest of my life should look like. But it won’t be like that. You figure that stuff out as you go along in life.

So, while that is a big reason I decided to take this trip, I need to not hold onto the idea that ‘travelling saves your soul‘. Because it won’t, but it will give my soul the food that it needs to keep going through this weird time in my twenties.

Photography by Matt McCormick